In the realm of leadership and personal development, the dynamic interplay between drive, motivation, and well-being can make the difference between reaching goals or crashing and burning out. Being driven is not a “one-size-fits-all” approach. Additionally, while being a little driven is good, being even more driven is actually worse. In fact, going from being driven to being in overdrive can undermine your process and the resulting success.
Overdrive stems from an intense, almost obsessive desire to succeed, arising out of a fear of failure, criticism, or a need to prove oneself.
Recognizing the thin line between drive and overdrive is essential. While drive can propel leaders toward success, an excessive, unrelenting pursuit of goals can lead to detrimental effects. Unhealthy drive often presents itself as chronic stress, exhaustion, and strained personal relationships. To address this, leaders need to delve into the root causes of their drive. Since overdrive is fueled by underlying fears, such as the fear of failure or inadequacy, acknowledging and addressing these fears is a crucial step in recalibrating one's approach to drive.
A key strategy for maintaining a healthier drive is adjusting one's perspective on goals. Instead of fixating solely on a singular outcome, it's important to embrace the process itself. Celebrating milestones and embracing a flexible mindset that welcomes adaptation can contribute to a more sustainable approach. Prioritizing well-being is another vital aspect of balancing drive. Establishing clear boundaries between work and personal life, prioritizing self-care, delegating tasks, and seeking support all play a role in cultivating a healthier and more sustainable approach to drive.
The Positive Aspects of Being Driven
Healthy drive is rooted in a sense of purpose, passion, and a growth mindset. It invests time in personal development, strategic thinking, self-care, personal and family activities, and inspiration. This type of drive recognizes that being is as essential to success as doing is. Leaders with drive cultivate self-awareness, understanding their motivations and ensuring their activities align with their overall well-being and the well-being of those they lead, not solely achievement and success using external measures.
Focused Goal Pursuit
Being driven entails a resolute focus on achieving specific goals. This tenacity allows leaders to channel their energy into singular objectives, often resulting in increased productivity and accomplishment.
Resilience and Persistence
Driven individuals exhibit exceptional resilience, bouncing back from setbacks and failures. Their unwavering commitment empowers them to persevere through challenges, maintaining a positive outlook.
Leadership and Initiative
The inherent drive leaders exhibit compels them to take the lead and seize opportunities. Their proactive nature encourages them to identify avenues for improvement and guide others toward positive change.
Goal Setting and Achievement
Driven individuals are skilled at setting and achieving goals. This goal-oriented approach fosters a sense of purpose and direction, guiding their actions toward tangible outcomes.
Recognizing Overdrive Before It Runs You Over
It's essential to differentiate between a healthy, positive drive and a fear-driven or compulsive need for success. Explore the following list of toxic downsides to overdrive, and see how many you may be struggling with to some degree as you pursue you goals:
Burnout and Health Concerns: Leaders who are in overdrive push themselves (and those they work with) relentlessly, neglecting self-care and work-life balance. This can lead to burnout and stress-related health problems, undermining their long-term effectiveness.
Micromanagement: If you are in overdrive, you may struggle to delegate tasks due to concerns about outcomes. This can lead to micromanagement, stifling co-worker and partner growth, and it also is severely limiting for strategic thinking. Think about how busy you are if you feel the need to oversee “all the things.”
Impulsivity: The persistent fears of not meeting expectations, losing out on a potential opportunity, or intense need for more financial security causes leaders in overdrive to rush decisions without adequate consideration. This impulsiveness can result in poor choices that harm long-term goals.
Neglecting Relationships: If you are in overdrive, you may prioritize your endless to-do list over nurturing personal connections. This can erode trust, hinder communication, and leave a leader feeling very isolated and alone.
Resistance to Adaptation: Leaders in overdrive may resist change, sticking to familiar approaches, or, alternately, trying to mimic what they have seen (or believe they have seen) work for someone else. This rigidity can hinder adaptation to their own unique situation and challenges.
Lack of Innovation: Intense fear-driven focus hinders creative thinking and considering alternative solutions, because it is in fight, flight or freeze mode. It is difficult or impossible to be truly innovative and solution-focused when you feel unable to stop and create the space required.
Unrealistic Expectations: Fear-driven leaders might set overly ambitious goals, creating unnecessary pressure and disappointment if these goals aren't met. There is nothing wrong with aiming for the stars, of course. The problem arises when we try to aim for the stars and skip the steps of launching out of the earth’s gravitational pull first.
Ineffective Communication: When we find ourselves in overdrive, our communication changes. We are in too big of a hurry to allow for conversational explorations, negotiations, problem solving and connection building. Instead, we communicate authoritatively, hindering open dialogue and collaboration.
Lack of Empathy: While it might seem obvious that someone in overdrive might struggle to empathize with their team's challenges, focusing solely on their own success, it is also important to note that these same individuals fail to give themselves any empathy or compassion too. Instead, they push themselves relentlessly, fighting against their body’s natural needs and rhythms, and becoming highly critical of any errors or shortcomings.
Lack of Boundaries: When they are in overdrive, individuals may struggle with setting clear boundaries between work and personal life. This can lead to overworking, burnout, and neglecting self-care. They also fail to set boundaries between themselves and client or customer demands, between friends and family demands, and even their own demands on themselves, when they are their own boss.
Fear of Failure: This is most often the underlying issue with overdrive behaviors. This is also part of a fixed mindset, vs. a growth mindset. The driven individual understands that failure is part of growth and learning. Even a financial disaster is recoverable; especially when you allow that it is possible and have determined how you will handle it. Failure is only fatal when you quit.
Inadequate Stress Management: When you believe it is not possible to prioritize stress management techniques, even in the face of chronic stress and its associated negative consequences, you are likely in overdrive.
Lack of Flexibility: Interestingly, overdrive is characterized by a singular focus on goals. When the process and evolving circumstances are overlooked, ignored, or denied, then frustration and exhaustion are almost inevitable.
Help! I Can’t Afford to Slow Down: How to Turn Overdrive Back Into Drive
Shifting from an overdrive fueled by fear into a healthy, positively driven approach can be challenging, especially when financial concerns or fear of failure are dominant factors. However, it is possible to make this transition by implementing strategic steps and mindset shifts. Here's how someone can feel safe slowing down and cultivating a healthier drive:
Acknowledge and Accept Fear: The first step is to acknowledge the fear and recognize that it's a natural emotion. It's important to accept that fear is a part of the journey but doesn't have to control it. This acknowledgment can help reduce the grip fear has on your decision-making process. It isn’t necessary to psychoanalyze the fear. What is important is to name it and claim it, in order to release it.
Set Realistic Goals: Break down your larger goals into smaller, achievable milestones. This allows you to focus on incremental progress rather than fixating on the end result. Achieving these milestones can build confidence and alleviate the fear of failure.
Financial Planning: Address financial concerns by creating a comprehensive financial plan. Analyze your current financial situation, identify potential risks, and devise contingency plans. Knowing you have a safety net can provide a sense of security, enabling you to consider slowing down without as much anxiety.
Mindfulness and Self-Care: Incorporate mindfulness practices and self-care routines into your daily life. Engage in activities that help you relax and unwind, such as meditation, exercise, spending time with loved ones, or pursuing hobbies. Taking care of your well-being can create a buffer against fear-driven behaviors.
Shift Perspective: Reframe your thoughts about failure. Instead of seeing failure as an end point, view it as a valuable learning experience. Embrace failure as a stepping stone toward growth and improvement. This change in perspective can reduce the fear of failure's paralyzing effect.
Visualize Success: Create a clear vision of the positive outcomes you aim to achieve. Visualizing success can help shift your focus from fear to possibilities, motivating you to take calculated risks and make informed decisions.
Seek Support: Surround yourself with a support network of friends, family, mentors, or colleagues who believe in your potential. Their encouragement and guidance can offer reassurance and make it easier to embrace a healthier drive. And, yes, this is where working with a coach is invaluable. They are trained to be your biggest cheerleader and help you avoid descending into self-defeating inner dialog, focusing instead on your natural gifts, talents and the infinite possibilities.
Practice Patience: Understand that success and growth take time—even when it feels like the pressure is turned up to an excruciating volume. Slowing down lets your body and mind function more optimally, so you are better able to address the pressure from a centered state. Patience can help ease the pressure and create an environment conducive to healthy decision-making.
Embrace Flexibility: Embrace a flexible approach to your goals and plans. Plan A not working? No worries. There are 25 more letters to play with. Adapting to changing circumstances and being open to adjustments can alleviate the fear that you simply must stick rigidly to a single path. Unstoppable leaders don’t power through like a jackhammer. They flow over and around obstacles like water.
Celebrate Small Wins: Celebrate even the smallest accomplishments along the way. Recognizing and celebrating progress, no matter how minor, can boost your confidence and reinforce your positive-driven mindset. Answering one email, making one phone call, and taking 5 minutes to think strategically all matter. When you start stringing the tiny wins together, a pattern of success emerges very rapidly.
Remember that transitioning from fear-driven overdrive to a healthy-driven approach is a process that takes time and effort. By gradually implementing these strategies and making conscious mindset shifts, you can create a sense of safety and confidence in slowing down while still working toward your goals.